Germany Vs. USA: Why I Regret My Move Back Home

Luna Greco

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Post on May 28, 2025

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The Crushing Weight of Healthcare Costs in the USA

The stark contrast between German and American healthcare systems hit me like a ton of bricks. In Germany, healthcare is a right, not a privilege. My experience there was one of seamless access to doctors, specialists, and preventative care, all at a fraction of the cost. Here in the US, the system felt immediately overwhelming.

• Exorbitant Costs: A simple doctor's visit, which cost me €30 in Germany (with my insurance covering the vast majority), easily runs into hundreds of dollars here, even with insurance. A recent dental procedure that would have been manageable in Germany became a significant financial burden.
• Insurance Nightmare: Navigating the complex US insurance system is a full-time job in itself. Deductibles, co-pays, out-of-network fees – it's a constant source of stress and anxiety. The fear of incurring unexpected medical bills hangs heavy.
• Lack of Preventative Care: The high cost of preventative care means many people avoid regular checkups, leading to more serious, and more expensive, health issues down the line. This is a stark contrast to Germany’s proactive approach to healthcare.

The peace of mind I enjoyed in Germany, knowing I could seek medical attention without the looming threat of financial ruin, is a luxury I've lost.

The Cultural Shock of Returning Home – Reverse Culture Shock

Returning to the US wasn't the smooth transition I anticipated. Reverse culture shock hit me hard. While I'd been away, American culture had subtly, yet significantly, shifted.

• Social Interactions: The directness and informality that once felt natural now seemed blunt and rude. The emphasis on small talk felt superficial compared to the more direct, honest communication I'd become accustomed to in Germany.
• Work Environment: The work-life balance, so diligently maintained in Germany, seemed a distant dream. The pressure to work long hours and the limited vacation time are a jarring contrast.
• Consumerism: The sheer volume of consumerism felt overwhelming and excessive. Germany's more sustainable lifestyle and reduced emphasis on material possessions left me feeling strangely out of sync with the American norm.

I found myself feeling like an outsider, an observer rather than a participant in the culture I'd grown up with.

The Disappointment of Certain Aspects of American Life

Beyond healthcare and culture shock, several aspects of daily American life fell short of my expectations.

• Public Transportation: Reliable, affordable public transportation, a cornerstone of German life, is practically nonexistent in many parts of the US. The reliance on cars is both expensive and environmentally damaging.
• Work-Life Balance: The relentless pace of American work culture leaves little room for personal life. The lack of legally mandated vacation time is another stark difference from Germany.
• Environmental Concerns: The lax environmental regulations and the widespread indifference to sustainability issues are incredibly disheartening compared to Germany's strong commitment to environmental protection.

Missing the German Quality of Life

The things I miss most about Germany are less about specific places or things, and more about the overall quality of life.

• Efficient Infrastructure: From reliable public transport to well-maintained roads and infrastructure, Germany simply operates more efficiently.
• Affordable Housing: The cost of housing in Germany, while rising, remains significantly lower than in most parts of the US.
• Strong Social Safety Net: The German social security system provides a level of security and support that's largely absent in the US. This, combined with the strong emphasis on work-life balance, created a sense of well-being that I deeply miss.

Conclusion

My return to the USA has been a complex and, at times, disappointing experience. The high cost of healthcare, the challenges of reverse culture shock, the disappointments related to aspects of American life, and a profound longing for the superior quality of life in Germany – all contribute to my regret. Moving back home wasn't the homecoming I’d envisioned. This experience highlights the importance of thoroughly researching and understanding the implications of such a significant life decision. Before making a similar move, carefully weigh all the pros and cons – consider the healthcare system, cultural differences, and lifestyle factors – to ensure you're making the right move for you. Have you had similar experiences related to Germany vs USA, or regretting a move back home? Share your thoughts below! Perhaps your experience can help others avoid similar pitfalls when considering relocating to Germany or making any significant life change.